The Angry Guy

Category: Those Who Are Not Ready to Date

People are funny.  They take the time and make the effort (and it is an effort, I tell you.) to sit down and write an online profile, find pictures and then weed through the emails and profiles.  You try to be witty and funny, come off as smart and articulate, find your best pictures.  The idea is to attract someone to whom you would be attracted.  You try to present yourself as someone people would want to be around.  You want someone to see your profile and think, "Gee, that girl/guy would be a fun date!"  or "I would like to meet her/him!" Or maybe that's just me.  Maybe I am missing the point.

Here's the thing.  I have found many, many profiles from men who are obviously not trying to attract anyone.  And if they think they are, well, then, they also fall into the category of "those who fail to embrace their own reality."  By the way, I have never looked at women's profiles, but I am absolutely positive that this goes both ways.  I merely use the men as examples because that is what I have seen.  The problem with these men is that they are not over those who have done them wrong and done them wrong bad!  They feel the need to vent, spew, regurgitate all of the past women's grevious errors to anyone who will listen, and what better way than to do it in a profile designed to be viewed by women?    I mean, it's like a gift...to have a website that allows you to tell women how ticked off you are at their mere existence and explain that "it's not me...it's all you women who are messed up." 

The thing I find amusing is that I don't even think these men know they are doing this.  I don't think they realize that they are making themselves completely unattractive to potential dates.  Who wants to go out with someone who has this list of faults that you must avoid or become one of "those" women?  I had a guy calling and texting once who was just weird.  I told him and didn't think we were a match.  I didn't criticize or list his faults.  I just said we weren't a match.  And do you know what he said to me?  "No wonder your husband left you."  I never met him, and I didn't really take it personally, but it is still not easy to hear something like that.  I didn't blame him, but he was going to blame me for sure.  He, by the way, will be the next exciting entry!  Fetish Guy. 

I digress.  The point is, that people who write profiles like these and especially the ones who don't even realize they are doing it are just not ready to be out there dating.    No one wants someone who is angry.  No one wants someone who doesn't like the opposite sex at the moment.  No one wants the pressure of having to be perfect to avoid your previous issues.  Obviously, we are all single (well, except the people who lie, but that's not what this entry is about) or we wouldn't be using a dating site.  Chances are, most people have had one or several bad experiences with relationships.  And none of us wants a liar, cheater, drama-filled nut case.  Believe it or not, this goes WITHOUT saying!  So I have some advice:

1. If you are still angry at your last (or any) significant other, do not write an online dating profile.
2. If you are still angry at your last (or any) significant other, do not ask your friends to set you up. 
3. If you are still angry at your last (or any) significant other do not date at all.
4. If you think you are past it, and you do get online and find yourself listing all of the things that you do not want, then turn the computer off immediately. 
5. If you think you are past it and find yourself online to date and write a nice profile, but are thinking of all the things you don't want with someone in your past in mind...try again later.
6. If you think you are past it, have some degree of opitmism that there are decent people in the world, then give it a go. 

The following is the profile of the guy who is not ready to date that prompted this entry.  I will choose not to mention his glaring grammatical errors.  I know he has some anger issues and probably can't deal with that right now.






Quite Lying About Wanting a Nice Guy:

In fact most women on here need to just remove every statement about wanting to find someone respectable... someone faithful... someone who is nice... someone who will treat them well.... totally from there profile... because most every woman on here who says that is truly lying....




I have made an attempt to talk to more than one lady on here.... and i am respectable... and i don't talk rude to anyone.... but it is rare for anyone to respond to my letters..... and the ones who respond... talk for once or twice... then go back to the drama they say they dont want...



Why are women so afraid to actually give someone a chance who is worth anything.... why do women only go for someone who will never treat them right.... is drama so much a part of there lives that they cant live without it???



if drama is all you want.... im not what you are looking for....

someone who cheats on you???? thats not me...

someone who will take advantage of you.... again... not me...

someone who will treat you like crap.... find someone else.... im not that way...



I have a job and work hard at it.... I pay my bills... so i guess since im not going to be living off of you... im not good enough...



Family is important to me.... in fact i take care of my mother... so if this is unappealing to you.... find someone else who hates his family....



I know i look good.... and i take care of myself.... so if you want a slob who looks like crap every day.... move on....



I just got a great set of wheels that i am proud of.... so if you want to ride around in a junker.... again... move on....



I am an intelligent free thinking person.... who can carry on a great conversation... so if you want a brain dead moron.... theres plenty of them out there....



Im active... i enjoy going out and doing things.... Skydiving... Cave exploration... traveling... so if you want a lazy piece of crap.... your looking in the wrong place....



I know how to listen.... on top of good conversations.... and if i am with someone... there opinion truly matters to me.... so if you want someone who would rather shut you up... plenty of abusive bad boys out there..... get over it... you will never change them or "save" them...



And why have people tried to hook me up with people who are fat and lazy????? Im in shape.... im healthy... im active.... if your not going to be able to keep up.... then your not the person for me.... im not going to stop being active because you are out of shape... Its not my fault that you cant keep up....



and why should i even want to be with someone who is way above my weight class????? I dont care if you have a "great" personality..... if thats all your bringing to the table... your a few cards short.....



im offering the great personality... good looks.... active life.... faithfulness... Romance... respect.... and true happiness....



If you cant offer the same.... how would i ever be happy??? i would be nothing but your slave then....



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This is a true to life poem i wrote.... that proves how women cry about what they want.... and only settle for everything they complain about....



You dream of someone who is a gentleman.

You settle for someone who is a total caveman.

You dream of someone who will listen.

You settle for someone who never hears anything you say.

You dream of someone who truly cares about your dreams.

You settle for someone who who always puts you last.

You dream of someone who will fill your life with passion.

You settle for someone who only breaks your heart.

You dream of someone who gladly makes you happy.

You settle for someone who laughs at you when you are sad.

You dream of someone who will comfort you when are scared.

You settle for someone who thinks you never deserve comfort.

You dream of someone who will help you with the housework.

You settle for someone who only yells when you are not working like his slave.

You dream of someone who will gladly give you his time.

You settle for someone who is around you when he feels you might deserve his time.

You dream of someone who shares his whole heart with you.

You settle for someone who does not have emotions.

You dream of someone who will trust you when you are apart from him.

You settle for someone who constantly accuses you of cheating.

You dream of someone who will defend you with his life.

You settle for someone who always starts fights with everyone who just looks at you.



If you have children.

You dream of someone who will accept your children and care for them as his own.

You settle for someone who thinks your kids are nothing more than a burden.

First DateI dont care if you think im an a$$... no one cared when i was nothing but respectable.... guess its time for me to be truly blunt....



if you cant handle the truth.... you need to just climb back into the drama ditch where you crawled out of.... im looking for true happiness....



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I will have no problem coming up with a good first date. Even if it is simple. It will be memorable.



For a date can be as simple as a walk in a park. To exciting as jumping out of an airplane.



There is nothing "normal" of what i can create.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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